My Purpose

“I vow to you that I will work on our marriage with a purpose, this is not something that I take lightly. “

These are some of the words that I spoke to my bride on the morning of August 24^th of this year.  These words express an idea that has become an inspiration for my life and to help start this blog.  It is so easy to become caught up in daily stuff and just go through the motions of life.  We find a job that we go to every day, we get married and live with that person, then we find a couple things to do every weekend and just repeat over and over and over…  We eat whatever food is the easiest and cheapest, find a couple restaurants where we become regulars and that becomes routine of it’s own.  Sometimes we even throw in a gym membership that makes us feel like everything else is ok because we got a few workouts in.  These routines can become mind numbing as we go through them from day to day.

Many people find themselves struggling at life and looking for answers.  As we see divorce rates remain high, obesity and diabetes rates are climbing and as many businesses fail ???succeed.  In early 2011 I found myself in a similar situation, I was divorced, unemployed and recently bankrupt.  I began looking for answers about why I found myself in that situation and what I had to do to get out of it and never return to it.  Initially there was a temptation to blame other people, my ex-wife and old supervisor jumped right to the top of that list.  I slowly began to realize that the change had to come from me. 

I began seeking a new career that would allow me the freedom to build my own way.  I was interested in the medical field and the thought of being a chiropractor had crossed my mind a few times.  Over the next few months it kept coming up, some guys in my apartment pool were chiropractic students and talking about it one day, and a new friend was a recent graduate and highly recommended it.  I finally decided to investigate it further and ended up enrolling at Cleveland Chiropractic College in Overland Park, KS. 

It was in one of my early undergraduate classes that I met the woman, who three and a half years later would become my wife.  I began the whirlwind of classes and tests and weekend seminars that all go into becoming a Doctor of Chiropractic.  Even while going through these classes I never lost that concern in the back of mind.  I never wanted to end up in that low place again.  I knew people didn’t always get divorced or end up unemployed and bankrupt. 

As Erica and I began to build our relationship and plan for the future I began to look at what made the difference in people who were successful in those areas.  I started to notice the idea of purpose.  It’s easy to go through those motions of living and when it derails, you have no idea how you got there.  On the other hand I noticed the people who were successful did not arrive there by accident, they worked with a plan and a purpose.  That was what I wanted to bring into my life, my marriage and my business.

This blog is a result of that purpose, as we work and learn about our marriage and business it will be documented on this blog.  We will continue to seek out others that we can learn from and share those lessons here.  We will seek to help others in anyway that we can.  Most importantly though, I will work on my marriage with the purpose to make it the best that it can be.

C